I’ve Said It

I’ve said it a lot today, but it’s true – I am not surprised, but I am disappointed. Furthermore, I am disappointed because I am not surprised.

I’ve said it many times today, but I am not taking on the Church’s teachings. Rather, I am taking on their seeming unwillingness to learn from the wisdom of its people. The Church hierarchy contains much wisdom – wisdom that has informed many of us – but we have a lot of wisdom too. You should listen. Perhaps your rules and regulations won’t change, but no matter, at least you will open up dialogue and not fire people for having differing views than you.

I’ve said it a few times today, but I really do respect that the Catholic Church takes a stand. I think I’ve made it pretty clear that I respect when one takes a stand for what they believe. That said, just because one takes a stand does not mean that another is not entitled to an opinion, or employment.

I’ve said it so many times today, but it bears repeating that numerous employees of Catholic institutions come out, publically, in favor of war and the death penalty. They do not get fired. Ironic, in some ways, that you can disagree with the Church on matters of death, but not love.

I’ve said it too many times today, but I am sad. If the youth can learn something from this then I will continue to sleep well at night as I will still feel like a teacher.

I’ve said it a million times today and over the course of the past twelve years, but thank you to all of the students who directed me to this place. I take this stand in your honor. You taught me the value of service and compassion and patience.

I’ve said it numerous times today – Purcell Marian had nothing to do with my firing today, it was the Archdiocese of Cincinnati.

I’ve said it a couple times today, but if you think that I took this stand to further my own political career then you don’t know me. I have said these things about equality for all since I was in the 7th grade. I have admired the challenge of creating and implementing public policy since I was a teenager. And I would never, five short months after I got married, jeopardize Katie and I’s livelihood for some idealistic whim or political ambition. No, if you think that, then you do not know me – and that is not your fault. I’d love to get to know you so you can see a different side of me. And I would love to learn from you.

I’ve said it many, many times today, but I do not know what is next. I will continue saying, “yes,” to the right things and, “no,” to the right things and see where this takes us. I firmly, in my soul, believe something great is down the line.

I’ve said it over and over today, but if this situation is causing anyone out there to have a conversation around the dinner table, in the pews or at the office about faith, institutions, reconciliation or the Church – then I will continue to smile. This is about accepting diverse thought. This is about having the difficult discussions that can change lives, communities and nations.

I’ve said it once, but I will continue to say it over and over again – I unabashedly believe that gay people SHOULD be allowed to marry.  Ethically, morally and legally I believe this.

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